7 Things to Make Your Mate Feel Greatly Wanted and Desired

There are 7 things you can do to make your mate feel deeply wanted and desired. You create a space where they feel valued, cherished, and uniquely appreciated. It’s not just about grand gestures but the thoughtful, consistent actions that show they’re irreplaceable in your life. From listening with genuine interest to celebrating their individuality, these moments of connection and care can transform a relationship into something extraordinary. Let’s explore seven ways to make them feel truly special.

Here are 7 powerful and heartfelt ways to make your mate feel wanted, desired, and deeply appreciated—not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually too:

1. Genuine Attention

Put your phone down. Look them in the eyes and make them feel you care and want them.

Give them your undivided attention when speaking, even in casual moments. That quiet focus says, “You matter more than anything else right now.”

2. Intentional Touch

Even if you are not the touchy-feely type, understand that a touch isn’t just about sex — it’s about connection.

A hand on the lower back, a soft kiss on the forehead, or holding hands unexpectedly communicates desire, safety, and affection, especially when the person needs your attention.

3. Sincere Compliments

Not just “You look sexy,” though that helps.

Tell them they're great in ways that reflect how you see their soul, strength, and softness. Compliment how they move, handle challenges, or how they change your day.

"I admire how you handle challenges with strength and grace, which inspires me to improve.”

"You have this incredible ability to make people feel valued and seen. It's one of the many reasons I feel so lucky to share life with you."

4. Make Them Feel Chosen

Desire isn’t about availability — it’s about choice.

Remind them, in words and actions, that of all the people in the world, you choose them, over and over. That’s powerful.

5. Flirt Like You Just Met

Keep the spark alive with playful energy.

Send them a suggestive text. Whisper something only they should hear. Flirt when they’re not expecting it—remind them they still excite you. Make them feel you are still dating, even after many years together.

6. Speak Their Love Language

Do they love gifts? Or spending time with you? Using words you know causes emotions. Show them acts of service.

When you speak their language, they receive a feeling of love. They won’t just feel appreciated; they’ll feel seen and understood. That’s rare. That’s intimate.

7. Show Desire Without Always Expecting Sex

Make them feel wanted, not pressured.

Touch them, praise them, admire them… and walk away. Let them feel safe in your passion, not obligated by it. That’s the kind of energy that builds deep attraction.

These seven things are not about you; they are about your mate understanding that you are real and care about them. It’s all about being present and attuned to the other person.

If you want to destroy your efforts at making your mate happy, do the following.

Neglect their boundaries: Overstepping personal space or ignoring their comfort zones can make them feel uneasy rather than desired.

Be insincere: Making empty flattery or forced gestures can come across as disingenuous, which might create distance instead of closeness.

Focus solely on physicality: Desire isn’t just about physical attraction. Showing you care only when you want something, or ignoring emotional or intellectual connection, can make your efforts feel shallow.

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